Question your shirts, one word that often shows up in our anger inducing thoughts is, should this
shouldn't be so hard, they should treat me better.
These drivers should go faster.
These should generally reflect an error and thinking for why we might prefer a certain outcome.
There is no actual rule that's been violated.
Chinking our sense of violation can diminish.
And Mr. City anger.
Talk yourself down.
Practice talking to yourself the way you would.
A friend who's upset come up with words or phrases that encourage you to calm down when you're starting
to wind up.
Examples include take it easy, be cool, breathe through this.
No need to get bent out of shape.
Notice when you're feeding anger related thoughts, we can fuel our own anger even without any ongoing
stimulus by mentally going over things that upset us or ruminating on our anger.
And this way can include imagined conversations that we find upsetting, even getting mad about made
up interactions.
Mindfulness practices are well suited to help redirect stimulation.
Remember your larger goal?
Anger narrows our focus onto the target of our anger, which can crowd out our bigger goals.
For example, we might lose sight of the relationship.
We are trying to deal with our kids when we are frustrated with them, right down the ways in which
anger has interfered with your goals.
When you feel anger rising, remind yourself of the things that are important to.